So, I just started a new part-time job (and am about to start another), and the babes are already starting in on the guilt tripping. Oh, man... this part sucks.
Today as I was preparing to put the Big One (who turns 3 tomorrow... how the hell did that happen?!?) down for nap, he looked at me, grabbed my face between his soft little hands and said, "Mommy? I miss you." And then I died. Time of death: 12:47pm. Cause of death: guilt overdose.
Me: "Sweetie, why do you miss me? I'm right here."
Him: "Because you go to that store and I miss you."
I have gone to "that store" (for my new job) twice. Two times. For four hours each time. And already with the guilt.
I know I am garnering no sympathy WHATSOEVER from the working mamas who read this. I know. I know I've been spoiled. I know you've been dealing with this and struggling through this since shortly after your babies were born. I know I really have nothing to complain about since I got to stay home with the Big One for 3 years and the Little One for 15 months. I know. I KNOW.
But if I've established anything here, I think I've made it clear that I am a good-for-nothin' whiner. And so... here I am. Whining. Like a punk. Because all of a sudden I'm having to struggle with the very thing that 80% of parents out there have to struggle with. Ridiculous, right?
We've worked it out (because we can't afford childcare) so that my husband is home with the kids while I'm at work, and I am home while my husband is at school. This is great because our kids are with us. This is terrible because not only am I not seeing my kids nearly enough, but now I'm not seeing my husband either. And it is hard.
Walking away from a crying 15 month old is tough. But I know that more than likely, he's going to see something shiny in a few a minutes and be distracted and happy again. Having a 3 year old remind you repeatedly that leaving him makes him sad... well... that just plain sucks balls.
And I know. I know this is good for them. They're used to me being around ALL the time and it's good for them to get used to more time with Daddy. It's good for them to see their parents taking care of business. And it's good for them when we can pay our bills(ish). It's good. I know.
But it still sucks. I knew being a working mom had its ups and downs. I'm just waiting to discover the ups. I know they're there. I know I will find them. But for now... oof. This is hard, man.
(I'm preparing to receive hate mail from all the working mamas out there. I understand. Go ahead.)